I Am Not a Failure for Needing

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I Am Not a Failure for Needing Help

Chronicles of a Quiet Fighter

Some days it hits me hard. The thought that I must be a failure because I need so much support. My mom reminds me to eat, Miranda grounds me when I start to spiral, and John helps me stay on track with food and health. Without them, I know I would have ended up in the hospital more than once.

For a long time, I have carried the weight of believing this made me weak. That needing help somehow erased all the things I have accomplished. But lately I have started to see it differently.

Needing support does not mean failure. It means I am human. Humans are not meant to live this life completely alone. Support systems are the safety nets that keep us going when our own strength runs thin.

When I look at what I have done, writing a 70,000 word novel in just two weeks, holding down a job that overwhelms my senses, and still finding the courage to share my story here, I realize that none of that is erased by the fact that I lean on others. If anything, it proves my resilience.

I am not a failure for needing help. I am human, and humans are meant to lean on each other. Needing support does not erase my strength, it proves it.

When the guilt hits quick, I remind myself with a shorter battle cry.

I stand because my allies stand with me.

I am learning that letting people in is not weakness. It is survival. It is strength. And it is love.

Caleb Powers

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